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I hoped that with the failure of President Trump's first unsuccessful reelection campaign, life would calm down for a moment. Nope, no such luck. The past few years have felt like trying to drink from a fully pressurized firehose. We're surrounded by unending stress lingering from the pandemic, and reinforced by ongoing natural disasters, political mayhem, and war.
Next Serving From The Firehose
Women's struggle for equal rights and personal sovereignty has been a long one. Now that the Supreme Court has overturned Roe V. Wade, upending fifty years of precedent and accepted law, we have lost our constitutional right to bodily autonomy in many states. Women are still in a continuing battle to achieve equity as the "other" half of humanity, and we are fighting for equality from within a system that was designed to control women and their lives.
Patriarchy, by its very nature, subjugates women economically, politically, socially, and sexually.
Economically, women don't have pay equity. This pay gap affects women throughout their lives, reducing their savings and investments. It results in reduced social security and pension benefits, and, for many, meager retirement incomes.1 "The National Institute on Retirement Security, a nonprofit research center, reports that women are 80 percent more likely than men to be impoverished at age 65 and older. Women aged 75 to 79 are three times more likely." 2 For midlife women, these concerns are serious.
Socially and sexually long-standing patriarchal ideas about women have branded us "the weaker sex" and defined women as overly emotional, irrational, victims of our bodies and cycles, fragile, reactive, illogical, and so on. Our patriarchal culture tells us what appropriate behavior is, what the standard of beauty is, what our goals, aspirations, and dreams should be, and even wants to define our biological destiny. Patriarchal structures reinforce the sexual subjugation of women to men through media, pornography, and accepted religious ideas about the role and expression of women's sexuality and bodies.
How did we get here, and why are we still here—more than 120 years after women's suffrage?
Did I Hear "Smash The Patriarchy!" Yes, But . . . it's not so simple.
Just the word Patriarchy creates so many different reactions. Some men get defensive, thinking they are being accused of being anti-woman. They are sure that all women believe Patriarchy is all men's fault. Some women feel that anti-patriarchal sentiments denigrate their life choices. Many men and women proclaim that they are not part of the problem because they think of everyone as equal! But all these perspectives fail to understand how entrenched social male domination and leadership are in our culture. They are key components of Patriarchy.
If we want to end Patriarchy and its values, we must know what it actually is. As women, we've all likely felt the results of living in a patriarchal culture. For example, cat calls on the street, unequal pay in the workplace, and carrying the lioness' share of household maintenance are all experiences within a patriarchal society. Yet, Patriarchy is not one man or all men, and it's not one woman or all women; it's the social system we live within.
Sociologist, author, and professor, Alan G Johnson Ph.D. writes about Patriarchy,
"Patriarchy is a kind of society organized around certain kinds of social relationships and ideas. . . . Patriarchy's defining elements are its male-dominated, male-identified, and male-centered characters . . . with manhood and masculinity most closely associated with being human and womanhood and femininity regulated to the marginal position of other. . . . It's about the valuing of masculinity and maleness and the devaluing of femininity and femaleness. . . . Above all, patriarchal culture is about the core value of control and domination in almost every area of human existence. . . . to live in Patriarchy is to breathe in misogynist images of women as objectified sexual property valued primarily for their usefulness to men. This finds its way into everyone who grows up breathing and swimming in it, and once inside us, it remains, however unaware of it we may be." 3
Just by living in our culture, being raised under its influence, and occupying a position within it, we are participating in Patriarchy because it is the social system of our culture.
How We Got Here—The Deep and Ancient Roots of Patriarchy
In her book, The Creation of Patriarchy, historian, and professor Gerda Lerner writes, "The period of the "establishment of patriarchy" was not one "event" but a process developing over a period of nearly 2500 years, from app. 3100 to 600 B.C." In her book, she details the events and cultural developments that led to patriarchal cultural dominance based on power, domination, and the subjugation of women. These changes included changing the myths of many early peoples from goddess-worshipping to monotheistic god-worshipping. It's a fascinating read that sheds light on much of what has happened in patriarchal history and why things are the way they are.
So, if it took us 2500 years to create this monster, will it take 2500 years to transform it?
Let's hope not. But it's not simple and will not be easy, and it will not happen overnight or in one election cycle. Johnson invites us to identify the social elements of Patriarchy and look at how they are related to the structures of social life. "We must see, for example, how cultural ideas that identify women primarily as mothers and men primarily as breadwinners support patterns in which women do most of the domestic work at home and are discriminated against in hiring, pay, and promotions at work. To really see this, we have to examine our values and the values of those around us. Patriarchy only exists as it is expressed through people's lives. There, we can witness all of its values over and over again. But this also means we can choose how to live within it and not adopt its values. We can make conscious choices about how we interact with culture and one another.
By living in the system, we are part of the system. Since Patriarchy is a system based on gender oppression and organized around gender categories, we cannot avoid being a part of it any more than we can avoid being born male or female. The fish cannot avoid swimming in the water it lives in.
We cannot decide whether we participate, but only how we will participate. It's the HOW of every day, the choices large and small made by women and men, that will begin to change the thousands of years of normalized oppression of women. It's possible to break the rules, change how we live, and make different choices to transform our patriarchal culture. We must choose to live consciously and speak our truth. Every. Single. Day.
In that, there is hope for the future.
Namasté,
Dr. A.
References
3. Johnson, Allan. The Gender Knot: Unraveling Our Patriarchal Legacy 3rd Ed. 3rd ed., Temple University Press, 2014.
4. Lerner, Gerda. The Creation of Patriarchy (Women and History; V. 1). Revised ed., Oxford University Press, 1987.
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